Why do some people have to have drama in their lives? Why does everything have to be some sort of popularity contest to some people? Why is it that some people think that someone else should always help them out but they never do the same for other people?

I hate to use this blog just to bitch about a certain someone, but sometimes, I just feel like it.

About a month ago, my husband got a call from the ex regarding something that my 4 year old stepdaughter supposedly said "out of the blue". Supposedly my stepdaughter told her mom that my daughter told her that it was ok not to wash your body when you shower, basically, that we wouldn't know. I, of course, spoke to my daughter about this and she admitted that she did say that. So, we talked about why that was wrong and the importance of hygeine and all that. What gets me is that doesn't seem like something a 4 year old just brings up in conversation. I believe that she is being questioned about what goes on at our house. That I do not appreciate for a couple of reasons. #1 being that it is wrong to put you child in that position!! WRONG! #2 being that there is not a damn thing wrong with what goes on in OUR house. The girls eat healthy meals, play outside, take showers, have clean clothes, have chores to do and have bedtimes. It is a perfectly normal home. And, of course, the ex waited until the next day when she was around her friends to call and try to be a bitch about it, cuz you know, you gotta look like a badass in front of your friends.

Another thing that is pissing me off at the moment. My stepdaughter has been sick since Saturday (and this is her week at her mom's). Yesterday was my MIL's day off of work. My stepdaughter ended up staying over there yesterday so that her mother didn't have to take off work. WTF? You cannot stay home with your own kid when she's sick??? My guess is (and I don't know for sure without asking, so...) she called my husband to tell him that he needed to take the day off and stay with her and he called his mom since she was off work anyway. This is not the first time this has happened. One Thursday last summer, the ex called my husband to tell him that he was gonna have to take the next day off of work and take her to the doctor because she thought my stepdaughter had the chicken pox. I raised holy fucking hell about that shit! My stepdaughter had just gone home to her mom's house that same damn day and here she is telling us that she's not gonna take off work to take her to the doctor. So, of course, my husband takes off and then the next morning, she decides to meet him at the doctor with my stepdaughter! So, you make him call into work to take her and then you still show up at the doctor's office??? And, yeah, no chicken pox. Mosquito bites. Perhaps you should brush up on your chicken pox symptoms.

It seems that she thinks we are her personal babysitters. But, if we were to ask her to do the same, no way in hell.

She left a comment on my other blog (though she denies it) stating something along the lines of my husband doesn't leave my stepdaughter with me unless he is going somewhere that kids aren't allowed. Um, my stepdaughter is with me all the time, but my point it that the ex? Has a boyfriend. That she lives with. And yet? He never seems to be able to watch his own girlfriend's daughter when she has something to do. Interesting.

Ok, I feel a tad better now after a bit of venting.

Some people will bitch no matter what

So, I've explained why I have this anonymous blog. Let me give you just a little more detail. On my other blog, I had mentioned that my husband and I had gone to a concert and that we had purchased a new tv since our's bit the dust. No big deal, right?

Well, to most people. My husband's ex, read it and immediately called him to bitch that we did not need to be spending money on a concert and tv when he was behind on daycare (for my stepdaughter) and child support. Now I have my own ex-husband, so I can completely understand this. If it were, you know, true. My husband pays a little over $100/month in child support because we have joint custody. One week here, one week there. According to our state law, support is reduced some because of that and because of her income and the fact that we also split daycare and pay for insurance. The child support that he was "behind on"? Was for February. That post? Was on March 3rd. He just hadn't given it to her. Same with the daycare. He just hadn't gone by and paid it yet. No big deal, the daycare wasn't upset about it.

She then had the nerve to send me an email asking my how I could write about my ex-husband not paying child support when my husband does the same thing!!

You stupid bitch! For those that don't know, my ex-husband hasn't worked in getting close to 2 years by his own choice. The last time I took him to court (last May) he owed me close to $15,000 in back support and unpaid medical bills. Mostly in back support. Close to $15,000! He currently owes me more than $5,000 in unpaid child support. I'd say that's a bit more than $100.

My situation is 100% different than hers. Her ex is responsible. He works every.single.day. He takes care of his daughter and sees her whenever he can even on the weeks she's not with us. He cares about what's going on with her in pre-school.

My ex? Gets his daughter every other weekend. He doesn't work. Does not provide any money for any thing!!! No money for her school supplies or field trips. He has never asked about her report cards. He doesn't pay shit for child care or carry her on insurance.

Even if my husband did every fucking thing she wanted, she would still be unhappy and bitch. Because she is a miserable person. She's not happy unless she's bitching. She can bitch all she wants, for the most part, my hubby ignores her. But the next time she ever says anything to me like that email, mark my words, I won't ignore it.

A new beginning

This is not my first blog post. Nor is this my first blog. In fact, it's probably my 5th. I have another blog out there that I write on as me. Not anonymous at all. But, I had to make that blog private because some people found it that I did not want reading it and I felt like I had to censor myself and I did. Then, even though I was only posting about things that were not intimate, no inner thoughts and such, someone tried to use that blog to cause problems in my life. I very much wanted to call that someone out on that blog, but she is my husband's ex-wife and is a very vindictive person. No need to cause problems as far as I am concerned.

Plus some of the other people that read that blog also read one that she has and I think it's stupid to start some she said/she said bullshit.

So, with this blog, I will say what I mean and not sugar-coat anything. You may hear about the crazy bitchy things my husband's ex does. You may not. You may read about boring this-is-what-I-did-today crap. You may not.

But, I need an outlet. One where I can be me. I don't need anyone else's approval to think what I think.